You owe it to yourself to define the terms and conditions of your womanhood… Ijeoma Umebinyuo
As we celebrate International Women’s Day, I’m so excited to write on being a woman. Let me quickly post a disclaimer: I AM NOT A FEMINIST. Now that we have gotten that out of the way lets talk about the joy of womanhood. Growing up, I hated being a woman; largely because of my monthly flow. Luckily, I come from a liberal home and I was never exposed to situations where the male folks were given preferential treatment just because they were male. If this was written 5 or 10 years ago, I would have said something like: “its quite sad how the women in our society have been overlooked and treated wrongly”. But I am glad I was born in the generation where women have found their voice, understood who they really are and have come to embrace the true identity of womanhood. It took us a long time to get here; our mothers and grandmothers endured the gender discrimination in their times and suffered the inability to speak out for their voice be heard. They paid the price so that we do not inherit their silence.
As I grew older, I came to realize that the female specie is one of strongest being ever created. (I won’t play the childbirth pain card, that’s going too far). The qualities that make up a woman portray her as strong & sensitive; with an analytical mind and trouble-shooting skills. The woman was created to nurture, care and preserve – to give of herself even when it may not be convenient; to smile even when she she feels like crying. Above all, women are good at multi-tasking. There are women who hold down more than one job and still carry out their motherly and wifely duties at home with ease. I’m not being sexist and I don’t deny the role/attributes of a man (like those biceps, triceps, six packs, one packs, beer belly you gotta love them) but this article is for women; when its international men’s day, we’ll talk extensively on these species.
Are you still finding it hard to be a woman? Have you found your voice and embraced your true personality? What terms and condition define your womanhood? It is true that change doesn’t happen over night; but I want to encourage you to be strong in whatever situation you may have found yourself. Bury your tired bones in books written by women who have survived wars like the one you’re surviving (Ijeoma Umebinyuo). Learn to express the true nature of your personality, allow yourself to discover the woman in you and one day, you will tell your own story, one day you’ll sing your song, one day you will find your voice.
I am a woman. I have embraced every facet of my womanhood; joys and pain (monthly pain o) inclusive. I wouldn’t trade it for the world. I don’t pretend to be shy and meek to win feminine points, rather I define the terms and conditions of my womanhood.
I get emotional,
I see visions,
I have a mind of my own.
I am a woman,
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HAPPY INTERNATIONAL WOMEN’S DAY
Written by Anu