Hey peeps, TGIF…guess you’re excited about the weekend, same here. Anyways, let’s go straight to the point. So I was scanning through my mailbox yesterday, I decided to open mails from 2010 backwards and look through the content know if any of them was still relevant or not. It’s always advisable to do a review once in a while to create space for new mails and get rid of the junks and unwanted stuff. During my review I stumbled onto one of those forwarded office mails, it was a poem by Maya Angelou titled HATERS. Hhhmm, interesting so i read through it again and just smiled cos it brought back old memories. I’m not going to share the memories with you but i’m gonna drop some advice.
At some point in our lives, there will be someone or some people who will not like you (after secondary school, it stuck in my head) and you don’t have to cry or get worried about people not liking you as long as you know you haven’t done anything wrong to them. There are people who just don’t like to see good things about others, they hear about your progress or success and they scoff, hiss and make faces (who cares). They say negative words to deliberately hurt or humiliate others, and derive joy in seeing people sad. They go about spreading false news about people just to bring them down and elevate themselves. Some people just don’t want to see you happy or smiling, they look for every little wrong you’ve done in a bid to spread the news and cause you shame. There are so many things haters do and the most painful is that they turn out to be people you least expected, people you have confided in and people you never expected to treat you with disdain. The problem is not about having haters cos they will always be there but the most important thing is to rise above them.
If they create time to talk about you, it means you’re important so don’t let their false words or stories affect you. They only see the glory and the beauty on the outside, they don’t know what happened inside and what you went through to get to where you are today. Don’t give them the joy they seek by sulking, crying and feeling bad…NO…instead hit them hard with the best you have inside of you. Determine to rise above those words by being your best, outdo your past, stay on track and keep going higher. Responding to them means reducing yourself to their low esteem and crumpled intellect, only someone with low self-esteem and confidence will want to bring others down in order to rise up, they are the only ones who want to excel at the expense of someone else’s joy. Don’t let them. So whatever you do, don’t let a hater stop you cos they can’t stand you when you STAND STRONG.
A HATER by Maya Angelou
A hater is someone who is jealous and envious and spends
all their time trying to make you look small so they can look tall.
They are very negative people to say the least. Nothing is ever good enough!
When you make your mark, you will always attract some haters…
That’s why you have to be careful with whom you share
your blessings and your dreams, because some folk can’t
handle seeing you blessed…
It’s dangerous to be like somebody else… If God
wanted you to be like somebody else, He would have given you what He gave them! Right?
You never know what people have gone through to get what they have…
The problem I have with haters is that they see my glory, but they don’t know my story…
If the grass looks greener on the other side of the
fence, you can rest assured that the water bill is higher there too!
We’ve all got some haters among us!
Some people envy you because you can:
a) Have a relationship with God
b) Light up a room when you walk in
c) Start your own business
d) Tell a man / woman to hit the curb (if he / she isn’t about the right thing)
e) Raise your children without both parent being in the home
Haters can’t stand to see you happy.
Haters will never want to see you succeed.
Most of our haters are people who are supposed to be on our side.
How do you handle your undercover haters?
You can handle these haters by:
1. Knowing who you are & who your true friends are (VERY IMPORTANT!!!)
2. Having a purpose to your life:
Purpose does not mean having a job. You can have a job and still be unfulfilled.
A purpose is having a clear sense of what God has called you to be.
Your purpose is not defined by what others think about you.
3. By remembering what you have is by divine prerogative and not human manipulation.
Fulfill your dreams! You only have one life to live…when its your time to leave this earth, you ‘want’ to be able to say, ‘I’ve lived my life and fulfilled ‘my’ dreams,… Now I’m ready to go HOME!
When God gives you favor, you can tell your haters,
‘Don’t look at me…Look at Who is in charge of me….’
HAVE A BEAUTIFUL WEEKEND 🙂