Lying in the emergency room with a bleeding skull was not exactly how I envisaged the 1st day of a new month (July) to be for me. The usual Lynda was full of life & enthusiasm; I also had lots of expectations for that day as the much awaited “ACCELERATE” conference was underway. I had prepared for it, invited friends/colleagues and was optimistic about the things I’ll learn from the event to help with personal & spiritual development. With all the excitement, my friend Abby and I headed for the conference; we drove through the crowded streets of Lagos and had a little ….. with crazy drivers in traffic before arriving at the church. From the car park we made our way to the marquee. We were about to go through the road leading to the church; I took one step towards the marquee and that was the last thing I remember, everything went blank.
About 10 – 15 minutes later, I found myself struggling to regain consciousness. There was so much noise in the background, people were screaming; I was oblivious of what had happened or where I was. My eyes flickered and I tried to make sense out of my environment but my vision was blurry. In split seconds, I felt a strong arm lift me from the accident scene onto a table inside the church premises; I later got to know it was the first aid team. One striking thing is that all these while, I felt no pain – I was completely numb and wondered what the panic was all about. Feeling like a bionic woman, I tried to get up from the table and continue my life from where it got interrupted but I was stopped by a sharp pain in my head; there was a laceration and it was bleeding, I was losing blood from my head. The first aid team got into action speedily and in few minutes my head was wrapped in bandage strips; then it dawned on me that something bad had happened. My friend grabbed my hands and I asked for the details; she described how I was hit by a bike driving with speed from the opposite direction. The speed must have been very high because I was thrown into the air and landed on the tarred road with my head.
Reminiscing on the series of events that occurred that day and the complications that followed afterwards; I can only be grateful for a second chance at life. I had an imbalance which temporarily impaired my ability to focus on objects and partially lost two out of five senses – the sense of smell & hearing in the left ear.
Learn to Appreciate Life – You never appreciate life and good health until you have to fight to stay alive: people often say there is a thin line between life and death. I never understood it until I found myself struggling to get back into my body. Learn to appreciate yourself; celebrate the life you have and live it like it’s golden. Don’t bother about the things you don’t have, rather be happy about the things you have that money cannot buy and find a reason to be happy with who you are.
Trouble times don’t last forever: No painful situation lasts forever; the moments when you go through it may be gloomy but you will eventually heal and come out glowing if you stay strong. The day my head was stitched, I was given four injections to the head to numb the pain but I still felt every pick of the needle and the sliding of the thread through my scalp. Four stitches felt like fourteen stitches due to the excruciating pain; it was a nightmare in day time but eventually, it came to an end. I may not understand what you are currently facing or the gravity of its impact; but I encourage you to stand strong and dance in the rain because your rainbow is almost here.
Look beyond the surface – when things go wrong; don’t just tackle it from the surface, look for the root cause of the problem and deal with it; in business analysis, this is referred to as Root Cause Analysis. After I had a CT-Scan on my head, everything seemed okay but 7 days later, I noticed I couldn’t stand for more than 3mins without support – imbalance. I didn’t understand it until the otolaryngologist (ENT surgeon) explained that the crystals in the organ controlling focus went out of position due to the head trauma and they are located in the ear. Isn’t it funny that the root of the problem in the head was coming from the ears? It may be work, relationship, business, family problems but whatever it is, learn to find the root cause as you stand a chance of resolving your problems faster and with long-lasting solutions.
Living a life of purpose – It was almost a month after the accident that I realised I have not been able to smell anything. It came as a shock that my nose was breathing perfectly but couldn’t transmit smell to the brain. The main purpose of the nose is to smell because you can still breathe from the mouth; so in my case, the nose wasn’t fulfilling its purpose. Likewise there are many of us who merely exist in life without living up to our full potential. Some people possess talents and gifts that have gone dormant due to inactivity and lack of pursuit of purpose. What is your purpose? I don’t mean your job description; I mean that extra something about you that brings inner fulfillment. Today, search within you and activate that skill, talent, gift or idea that will give you a deep-rooted connection to your purpose. These books can help you – PURPOSE DRIVEN LIFE by John .C. Maxwell; MAXIMISING YOUR POTENTIALS by Myles Munroe & INSTINCT by T. D. Jakes.
Listen to your heart – The dress code for Fridays at my work place was casual, so every week I look forward to this particular day to unleash my dresses and bright colours. 1st July was a Friday but instead of a dress, I listened to my heart and opted for a blue jeans, top and blazers; after work I made a quick stop at home to change my flats to heels but again, this voice nudged me to go for the conference with flats. I love heels and it was quite unusual but I adhered and moved on. After the accident, people asked if I had any bruises or wounds and my response shocked them; this is because I was fully covered by the jeans and blazers. Thank God I wore flats because my ankle would have twisted from the fall and who knows what would have followed next. There’s always a still small voice that speaks to us but many times we ignore it; please always listen to your heart because you never know what it may be saving you from.
Love Unconditionally – when I realised I was losing blood from my head and the ambulance wasn’t forth coming (thanks to Lekki-Epe traffic), I started muttering prayers to God to please spare my life for my loved ones. I wanted to tell them how much I loved them and was happy to have them in my life. There is really no gain in hating someone or bearing grudges because it burdens you more than the other party. So spread as much love as you can in your neighbourhood, work place, etc.; tell your loved ones how much you love them and express it as much as you can.
All those complications are gone; I’m back to work fully focused and functioning perfectly. For my nose, let’s say I can smell you from here (lol)…. and my ears can hear your whispers. I tried my very best to make this writing as short as possible but it wasn’t possible because I know this message will help someone so please share it with friends and family.
HAPPY NEW MONTH OF SEPTEMBER, may the rest of this year be the best you’ve ever experienced and may God give you a testimony so you can dance just like I did in the picture below.